Heather Meglasson “The Brilliance Coach”
Outgrowing The Initial Subconscious Agreements
Your subconscious mind was originally developed to help you survive physically, then emotionally, then mentally. Since it’s formation the subconscious mind has focused on three basic things:
1. Keeping you “safe” by having you repeat familiar recognizable situations and routines.
2. Saving you from perceived embarrassment based on personal trial and errors, external warnings or examples.
3. Being “right” by defending the internal agreements you have made or accepted throughout your life whether in times of success and happiness or times of challenge and fear.
Every agreement you’ve ever accepted, both positive, like deciding that stealing is wrong, or negative, like believing your friend was right when she said “you have a big nose” went into the initial formation of your subconscious mind before the age of 12. This formation also includes all the imprinting of problems and challenges you’ve ever had to face in your adolescence. Anything similar experienced now in adulthood, simply triggers the old responses or symptoms of these earlier events.
Now as an adult, though you have developed new tools for coping with success, happiness, challenges, fears…etc, your subconscious has slowed down in its ease of acceptance and ability to change. It still bases most of its mission to protect you, keep you from perceived embarrassment as well as uphold those originally established beliefs, values and agreements as right, on the 12 year old subconscious version of yourself. Therein lies the challenge. Now that it has passed the establishment phase of childhood, and changes slower than your new dreams and ambitions as an adult, how do you get past the purposeful contradiction you must create in the subconscious mind to affect positive change?
The mind, which is the intangible counterpart of its physical component, the brain, has been found to follow certain rules. The important rule to understand here is that opposing ideas cannot be held at one and the same time. If you were to preach honesty and practice dishonesty, the internal conflict carries physical penalties and negatively affects the nervous system. This is the subconscious’s way of telling you “Hey, you’ve agreed this is wrong. If you are confronted for choosing this conflicting behavior, it could result in embarrassment.” Ever get that knotted feeling in your gut when you’ve done something you were not proud of? That’s a direct message from your inner mind warning you that you gone off the agreed upon path.
Signs of Pushing Your Current Subconscious Boundaries
When today, you attempt to make a dramatic change in your life, you can recognize the efforts of your previously formed foundational subconscious support when it attempts to keep you in its traditional patterns. These patterns are recognized in (but not limited to) these types of sabotaging behaviors:
1. Procrastination
2. Successful completion of other difficult projects that are NOT in alignment with your new goals.
3. Distraction seems to come out of nowhere to try and refocus you on other “important” things.
4. Feelings of fear emerge, related to taking each step forward.
5. You experience feelings of fear from possibly succeeding and losing control in the new pace and new routines outlined by your goals.
When these annoying behavioral patterns happen, feel free to consider them growing pains, as they are the proof that you are now outgrowing the initial agreement formations in your subconscious mind.
THAT’S EXCELLENT!
Knowing that a foundational change needs to be made is the first step in replacing old patterns with new ones.
In effect you are upgrading your mind.
